Today I conducted an experiment on behalf of every woman currently grappling with the physical effects of cancer. I left my hats and my ‘fake’ hair at home, threw caution to wind and started out on my commute across the capital with my bald head in full view.
For me, it was bold (or bald). London, however, with its preoccupied commuters and eclectic fashion sense has a great way of looking in the opposite direction. With the exception of a few pitying stares and a couple of double takes, I was just another person navigating the crowds to get to my destination. I didn’t want a seat. I didn’t want a hand. I just wanted to blend in. And, that’s exactly what I did.
While I do think a ‘new boob on board’ badge may have helped me avoid the elbows of those fighting for a bit of personal space, it was a fairly pleasant experience (as much as a commute across London at rush hour will ever be). It also reminded me that most people have so much to think about, that the potential plight of a stranger across the carriage really doesn’t register.
So, my advice to all you lovely ladies currently without lovely locks is dare to bare! Bald can be beautiful and pretty liberating. I shall leave you with the words of Larry David (slightly amended in itals): “Anyone can be confident with a full head of hair. But a confident bald man (or woman fighting cancer) – there’s your diamond in the rough.”
4 thoughts on “Breast cancer lesson number 83: Dare to bare!”
Love it – but please, while you’re asking for ‘boob on board’ badges could you fight for the more frivolous one (but painful I assure you) and ask for ‘bunions on board’ badges too? (Apologies to those without my black sense of humour but i am actually genuine on this one).
Ha ha. I hear people are even ignoring the ‘baby on board’ ones so am not sure we stand a chance. Gotta love London. J x
A brave decision. Not only from an image point of view but in a way you are also putting your diagnosis and treatment on view. I’m delighted you were comfortable enough to feel you blended in.
There will always be looks, and they may be doing so because they remember, or are worried, or are wishing you well, but there are many who will see and move on.
Well done again,
Thanks for posting. It did really feel good because while it was a sign of my illness, it meant I didn’t have to hide who I am right now. I only wear my wig to make others feel comfortable, and sometimes it’s lovely to do something for me. Hope you are ok and having a lovely weekend. J x