Decisions, decisions, decisions! When faced with ‘the big C’, every meeting, every booklet, every phone call demands a decision – and usually not a small one. Basically, a day without a potentially life-changing choice in it, feels like a day off cancer. Trust me, there aren’t many of those.

In the first few weeks following my diagnosis, my colleagues were constantly amused by the way in which I would turn up at my desk, do some work, decide about freezing embryos, drink tea, have a meeting, talk about major surgery, drink more tea, write some emails and then weigh up the pros and cons of losing my hair. It was like life was suddenly on fast forward and as long as I could tackle a few major decisions a day, I was just about keeping up (I thought I’d only have to work and plan out a wedding guest list this year).

However big, most of my decisions have been met with nods of approval and sympathetic smiles. I think there is one decision though that requires a bit more of an explanation. A few concerned friends have asked me why, when I could have had a more traditional silicone boob job, did I choose to have my tummy cut open and glued back together (a DIEP flap). It’s something I’ve glossed over in earlier blogs, but I can see why, on the face of it, I must look a little like a bit of a pain junkie or a glutton for punishment. Is a tummy tuck on the NHS really worth the effort?

The short answer is yes, absolutely. The decision to hand myself over to the surgeon and his scalpel may seem brave (or just a bit stupid), but having been armed with the facts, it was the only surgery I wanted to consider (hence the extreme chocolate eating).

Here’s a quick insight into why my tummy fat is now masquerading as my right boob:

1)    Immediate reconstruction or delayed reconstruction?
The ultimate no-brainer. I don’t have much up top as it is, so to be made flat chested on one side at the age of 32 was never really a consideration. I didn’t like the idea of wearing a breast prosthesis and really wanted to keep my cleavage (especially for a wedding dress). Immediate reconstruction apparently leaves less scarring than other types and the results are usually better. Tick, tick and another tick for good measure! The only really downside I can see (and the main reason people may wait I guess) is that radiotherapy may change the appearance of the reconstructed breast (let’s see shall we?!). I also had to wait a bit longer for the two teams of surgeons to be available to operate.

2)    To flap or not to flap?
A slightly more complex conundrum, but I hope you’ll see why the tummy was right for me.

a)    I’m very healthy (apart from the obvious) and have a lot of looking-in-the-mirror time left. Basically, I am not limited due to my general condition.
b)    Implants give a less natural look. Perky boobs would be more attractive if I was having both done. Trouble is, if you have one done, you open yourself up to the possibility of more surgery down the line just to keep you balanced (especially if you put on – or lose – a lot of weight). I like the idea of something that can grow with me and age gracefully.
c)     Implants don’t feel as soft or warm as a breast formed using your own tissue. Never really fancied a vampire boobie myself.
d)    Implants don’t last forever. That means more surgery down the line!
e)    Radiotherapy and implants are not great bedfellows.
f)     An implant is a foreign body that may fail, if your body rejects it. I was next to one woman in hospital who had had problems with two implants and had opted for the DIEP surgery as the last resort. Yes, there is a 2% chance of the tummy fat failing, but that’s good odds in my book.
g)    I know I can cope with pain.
h)    Tummy fat is always an unwanted addition to the body. I’m a great believer we all need our moment in the spotlight. Now, it can feel useful.
i)      Microsurgery is amazingly complicated. Humans wouldn’t have invented such a thing if it weren’t to create great results!

3) Tummy, bum, inner thigh or back flap?
What would you rather? A) A bum with a gap that reminds you of cancer every time you sit down B) Shoulder weakness C) An oddly-shaped inner thigh that makes cycling a bit tricky OR D) a flat stomach. Hmm! Tricky! Not such a dilemma in my book.

Ok, so I’ll admit this is a bit one-sided. Yes, it was major surgery. Yes, there may be more complications down the line. Yes, implants can look amazing. Yes, I have a patchwork of scars across my body. And yes, it hurt A LOT! (and the recovery will take time). But, all things considered, at 32, the short-term-pain-long-term-gain option was always going to win.

I have no regrets. I’d made my decision before I’d left the cancer surgeon’s consulting room and long before the plastic surgeon had had the chance to draw a diagram of my tummy and explain the lengthy list of complications.

My tummy is as flat as a pancake.  My boobie is warm and as real as it will ever be (albeit without a nipple for now). When I am rubbing aqueous cream into my scars (a must-buy for anyone with breast cancer), I don’t think about the lengthy surgery or the complications. I just smile and thank the surgeons for saving my life and giving me another reason to feel thankful when I look in the mirror.

For anyone having to make this decision in the future, good luck! Listen to your body, listen to your heart and I hope you have many more happy moments in front of the mirror.

Next decision for me? What to wear to my fertility meeting tomorrow. Do I have a skirt that can fit over my corset without it riding up and looking like a belt? Pretty complex stuff!